Why isn’t money about the math?
The truth is that each of us has a different way we want the here and now and the future to look—and that’s not mathematically-based. That’s emotionally-based.
That’s why couples tend to fight about money.
Then, there’s the brain.
Our childhood, teenage years, and adult experiences have continually crafted our likes and dislikes regarding money. It’s “okay” to spend money on some things, but not on others.
Remember the inner world principle (Lasting marriage rule #2)? Well, each of us have an inner world pertaining to money, too.
What can you do?
When your partner is able to hear what you value or don’t value (spoken gently, per Lasting marriage rule #4), the odds that you’ll have a productive conversation go up tremendously.
And so, when you find yourself getting flustered, pause for a moment and think: “Why do I value this purchase? Why does my partner value this purchase?” Since the difference in value is the cause of the issue, understanding the difference is the key.