The way to get started is to stop talking and begin doing.
Next to the death of a loved one, the ending of a relationship is the most painful experience most people will ever go through. Coming Apart is a first-aid kit for getting through the ending. It is a tool that will enable you to live through the end of your relationship with your self esteem intact.
Daphne Rose Kingma, the undisputed expert on matters of the heart, explores the critical facets of relationship breakdowns:Love myths: why we are really in relationshipsThe life span of loveThe emotional and unconscious processes of partingHow to get through the endingHow to create a personal workbook for finding resolution
Originally published in 1987 and continuously in print since then, with more than half a million copies sold, Coming Apart has been an important resource for hundreds of thousands of readers experiencing the pain and stress of a break-up. For anyone going through the ending of a relationship Kingma is a caring, sensitive guide.
I have been one who is always fighting change. Though it is good for me, I hate the emotional pain. I hate losing the person I once had in my life. I hate losing the good emotions, the good times, and the good connections. I do not mind losing the bad times. I hate losing the dreams and the ‘what ifs.’
So what do I do next? We are obviously heading in different directions and there is nothing I can do about it. Would it be good to keep the person in my life when they cannot give me what I need? Would it be good for me to keep them in my life if they themselves do not take care of themselves?
Where will I go? Will I ever find anyone like them? I hope so. I hope better than them, though the odds seem insurmountable.
So I write this post to get the angst out of my system and move forward doing what I can do for myself. There will be no romance or love this evening. I will be by myself with my dog. I will work out for me. I will watch a movie or tv show. I will eat dinner, but will be a bit melancholy. I will put one foot in front of the other and move forward. Why? Eventually I will be happy again. Eventually I will find love and romance again. will it be as good maybe not, maybe better. All I know is my old romance is dead. So I need to find a new romance.
I will embrace change and let go of the past, because I love myself.